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All members are welcome to join our Pen Friend scheme. As well as our public Facebook page Facebook page, we also have a private Facebook account, available on request and by invitation to members only. This enable members to support each other and share experiences.

9th December 2020 : Our volunteers currently have a high workload and this means that it may be difficult for us to maintain our usual very quick response to requests and queries. Please be reassured that we will respond as quickly as we are able.


Lady writting a letter.

Our Pen Friend Scheme

Open to any member, we run a Pen-Friend scheme so members may write to fellow ‘Helper-Sufferers’ in order to share their problems and successes, etc.

If you are interested, and have joined as a member, please send an e-mail to the Pen and Phone a Friend Secretary at for an application form. Alternatively, one can be sent to you in your joining pack.

We also offer an email Pen Friend Scheme, so if you would be interested, please contact the Pen Friend Secretary.

Letters between pen-friends are exchanged through our Central Address to protect your anonymity. You do not need to pass on your surname and address.

* We must stress that this service should not be looked on as a potential dating agency! We must also stress that members take part in this AT THEIR OWN RISK, as we cannot guarantee to police it adequately.

Below is an extract from a letter from one of our members. The letter was published in Newsletter 150:

“One of the most important things – if not the most important thing – which keeps me going, as it were, is the writing and receiving of letters. I have several pen-pals, all of whom have become very good friends, and without them my life would be empty indeed.

It is with this in mind that I ask you through the newsletter, to thank our Pen-Friend Secretary for all the hard work she does in running ‘our’ Pen-Friend club. It is an excellent service and I thoroughly recommend letter writing as good ‘therapy’. It has certainly enabled me to carry on, when all else seems hopeless.

Please, if you can, do encourage others to take up letter writing, it may prove to be enjoyable and a way of building up a friendship and, at the same time this can bring a sense of belonging and well-being.

And how pleasant to have the postman bring some welcome mail for a change. But, of course this wouldn’t be possible without D-UK, and our Pen-Friend Secretary.

So a BIG THANK YOU once again.”


DUK Chat

We also have a private chat forum, which is available to all our members if they wish.

If you are interested in joining any of our friendship services, then please write to or email the contact details below, remembering to include your Membership Number.


National Address


PO Box 10566


NG13 8LU

Email Address


IMPORTANT! We must stress once again that members taking part in any of the services offered do so AT THEIR OWN RISK, as we cannot guarantee to “police” them adequately.

“We promote mutual support between individuals affected by or at risk from depression.”